Jul 172014
 

From Annie P., Anaheim, CA

After doing a google search I came across the Kauai Tropical Weddings & Photography website. I immediately contacted Jessica and asked her a few questions about the services they provide. Out of all the other wedding officiants I spoke to over the phone she definitely won cause she was very easy to talk to and explained every step of the process.

I just want to say  Jessica and her Husband Robert have such a great work dynamic that absolutely made my husband Juan and I feel at ease. They both were very easy going and were open to our suggestions and opinions. Robert is such a great photographer who is willing to work with ideas one might have in mind. We are so glad we had the chance to have Jessica and Robert as our wedding officiant and photographer especially since we eloped we were afraid we might be dealing with serious/critical people but instead we dealt with wonderful loving folks!

Ok! I’ll stop there before I keep rambling about how happy and satisfied Juan and I are with the services we got. I would definitely recommend  Kauai Tropical Weddings & Photography to anyone who is going to be in the Kauai area and is looking for Wedding Coordination, Officiate, or Photographer.

From Sandy H., Ringgold, GA

I had no clue where to even start planning a wedding. I thought maybe the resort we were staying at could help, wrong. I had our resort reserved already but going through an exchange company I kept getting the main headquarters. So as others do, I googled weddings in Kauai. Looked through several and emailed several. Out of everyone I spoke to and emailed. Jessica at Kauai Tropical Weddings & Photography was the most knowledgeable and informative of them. Its a tough decision to make when you are putting your trust in someone you don’t know on one of the most important days of your life. I guess you could say I had a “gut” feeling about Jessica and Kauai Tropical Weddings. I can say now that I am very glad that I decided on them. We were married on April 14, 2013. Jessica had everything done before we got to the island. She had an answer to ever question I had, God Bless her. She had the ceremony edited as I requested, my flowers were absolutely gorgeous. The ceremony was great, Jessica did a wonderful job. Her and her husband Robert were very easy to speak to. Robert was snapping away at our photos, I guess he could tell I was nervous. He stopped, looked at me and said “take a deep breath”. I’m glad, cause I was a nervous wreck, lol. They both made the whole event go smoothly. They are very professional and made the whole occasion all about what we wanted. They are genuinely very nice people. We are very glad to have had them included on our special day. The pictures turned out awesome. None of our families were able to attend so the pictures Robert took were very important to us. Jessica also took photos after the ceremony. I will gladly refer anyone to them, and have done so already. In twenty so years from now when we renew our vows I can only hope that Robert and Jessica are still around to do the ceremony. I highly recommend for anyone coming to Kauai to get married to use Kauai Tropical Weddings & Photography. You will not be disappointed. 

May 272012
 

Christa and Will were married recently at beautiful Shipwreck Beach on the South Shore of Kauai, Hawaii. It was another glorious Kauai day.

They had this to say about their experience with Kauai Tropical Weddings.

“We cannot thank Jessica and Robert enough for such a worry free wedding. Every detail from arranging the pickup of the marriage license to Jessica helping select the most beautiful bouquet was perfect. Jessica worked with us to select a beach location that was close to our hotel on the south side of the island. Shipwreck Beach was incredible. We were a little worried having never been to Kauai and seeing the beach only in pictures online but wow we were amazed. On one side you have the beautiful beach with a cliff and on the other side you have wooded trails that are all great for pictures.

Jessica made the communication between us very easy and was in contact throughout the day of the wedding confirming weather and times. Both Jessica and Robert took away any jitters we had and the ceremony was very relaxed and romantic. Robert took amazing pictures and we received them in the mail the following week. Because it was just the two of us, the pictures were very important for us to be able to share our special day with our family and friends. Robert captured the entire wedding so nicely through the photos. We especially love the candid shots. We really cannot say enough great things about Jessica and Robert and completely recommend their services. Thank you so much for making our day one we will always cherish.” –Christa & Will

Apr 142012
 

Denae and Kristian where married at Haena Beach on the beautiful North Shore of Kauai. Denae picked a gorgeous bouquet made with stargazer lilies and put one in her hair to match. The pop of color was wonderful with her dress and against the backdrop of the Pacific. They traveled all the way from Florida and had a fantastic time on Kauai.

Denae had this say about us: “Jessica took all of the stress out of planning a fun and relaxing Kauai wedding.  She was professional, timely in all of her correspondence, and very flexible.  She helped us choose the perfect location, my flowers were breathtaking, and she didn’t mind at all when we chose to write our own ceremony.  The photos that Robert took are some of the best I have seen, and we received them shortly after we arrived home. We would definitely choose Kauai Tropical Weddings again.”

Apr 042012
 

We recently married a very sweet couple at Anini Beach on the North Shore of Kauai, our beautiful Hawaiian Garden Island. It was a special morning wedding and the light was beautiful. The spot we picked has a natural area to have the ceremony and great photo opportunities for shots after. It was just the two of them and the ocean for their intimate, beach wedding.

Dec 242011
 

By Kathleen Doheny, WebMD

Relationship experts say much more than luck is needed to stay together and beat the odds of a divorce, now estimated to end half of today’s marriages. Here, relationship experts consulted by WebMD offer their best marriage tips for how to stay lucky in love. And they go way beyond the usual tips to buy her flowers, cook his favorite meal, and remember to schedule date night.

Marriage Tip No. 1: Purge the “D'” word.

With the taste of wedding cake barely off their lips, divorce is the last thought — or word — on newlyweds’ minds. But as the honeymoon period wanes, and day-to-day difficulties crop up, the word can come up frequently during arguments for some couples, say relationship counselors.

“Just don’t go there,” suggests Steve Brody, PhD, a psychologist in Cambria, Calif., who counsels couples. “Some people pull that out much too early, and much too often in a relationship. It raises a whole level of anxiety [in the person hearing it].”

Divorce is also considered a dirty word by the more than 200 “marriage masters” interviewed for the book, Project Everlasting. Co-authors Mat Boggs and Jason Miller, bachelors and childhood buddies from Portland, Ore., traveled the country to interview the couples, married 40 or more years, and ask for their best marriage tips.

“Don’t use the D word” was one oft-repeated suggestion for keeping a happy marriage, Boggs says. These marriage masters told him, “You need all your energy to find the solution to a problem and work it out. If you are even giving any consideration to a divorce, you lessen your ability to solve the problem.”

Of course, Boggs says, the marriage masters acknowledged that some situations are deal breakers, such as addiction, adultery, or abuse. But when the problem is less severe, many of the marriage masters told him they create a “ledger of life.” They get out a piece of paper and write down everything they love about their spouse. Eventually, they shift gears and begin to focus on what is right, not what’s wrong.

Marriage Tip No. 2: Replace the 7 deadly habits in a marriage with the 7 caring habits.

Learning the seven bad habits and the seven good ones is the easy part, admit William Glasser, MD, a Los Angeles psychiatrist, and his wife, Carleen Glasser, MA, who co-authored Eight Lessons for a HappierMarriage and include this idea in their book and counseling sessions. Putting them into practice takes effort, of course.

The seven deadly habits are criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing, and bribing.

The seven caring habits include supporting, encouraging, listening, accepting, trusting, respecting, and negotiating your differences.

Marriage Tip No. 3: Take care of yourself.

This marriage tip is short and sweet: “Take care of yourself physically and spiritually,” Brody tells couples.

That way, your stress will be down and your tolerance will be up. You’ll be less likely to get on each other’s nerves — and to squabble. You’re more likely to have a happy marriage.

Marriage Tip No. 4: Discuss outside friendships.

While some married couples consider activities such as workplace friendships with members of the opposite sex acceptable, some relationship experts disagree.

“I’m not big on cross-gender friendships for married people,” Brody says. “It’s playing with fire.” One exception, in his book: If a wife has a friendship with a gay man or a husband has a friendship with a gay woman, he’s fine with that, since the romance potential is nonexistent.

Otherwise, he says, the line is too easy and tempting to cross.

Marriage Tip No. 5: Stop trying to control your partner.

It’s another one of those easier-said-than done marriage tips, of course. But trying to control each other — using a technique psychologists call “external control” — is the main source of marital unhappiness, according to the Glassers. In a happy marriage, partners know they cannot control each other.

You have practiced this “external control” if you have ever told your partner they need to behave the way you want them to or that you know what is right.

Learning not to control a partner can be a long process, but the Glassers offer some tips on educating yourself. “Think first,” Carleen Glasser says. Ask yourself: “If I can only control my own behavior, what can I do to help the marriage?” Then think of what you can change to make the problem better, she suggests.

Marriage Tip No. 6: Honor and respect your partner.

“Be honoring all the time,” says Thomas Merrill. That means no “my old lady” stories, he says. And it also means a wife shouldn’t be flirting with male co-workers or other men.

Respect was also a marriage tip that came up often from the marriage masters, Boggs says. “The No. 1 principle that almost everyone talked about is respect,” he says. “You can have respect without love, but you cannot have love without respect.”

Respect, say those with a happy marriage, means not undermining your partner in front of the children. “And don’t go outside the marriage when you are having a problem,” Boggs says they advised. “Discuss it with your partner.”

Respect also means not criticizing your mate in front of others, Miller and Boggs were often told by the marriage masters. To make this marriage tip easier to practice, consider the input of one marriage master on the topic, Boggs says. “One man told me, ‘Let’s say someone is walking by when you are criticizing your mate. That is the only opinion they have of you.'”

Marriage Tip No. 7: If you’re the wife, lower your expectations. If you’re the husband, step up to the plate.

When Steve Brody and his wife, Cathy Brody, MFT, a marriage and family counselor, toured the country to promote their book, Renew Your Marriage at Midlife, they asked audiences what they wanted from marriage.

“Women expected to be loved, cherished, listened to, cared for, and courted,” Steve Brody says. They had a long list of wants and expectations, he recalls. The men joked that their expectations were more basic: Their typical answers, Brody says: “Bring food and show up naked.”

While the men were half joking, the gaps in expectations are a good lesson. To close the gap, Brody says, women need to lower their expectations — to not expect 24/7 romance, for instance, especially if their mate has just worked an unbelievably long week.

Men need to do some of the things the woman wants, such as prioritize their relationship and listen more, he says. In a nutshell, Brody says, “Men need to do the same things at home that they do at work.” He tells the husbands he counsels to think of it this way: “Your wife is the million-dollar client. If she walks out the door, the business is closed.”

Dec 122011
 

Jenn and Eric married at our North Shore property.